Wednesday, January 2, 2008

Becoming Part I

“You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? What have they got me reading? What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most important, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay? Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” Jim Rohn

My first challenge this new year in BECOMING will be to look at and evaluate relationships in my life. Are they propelling me forward or holding me back? I actually started this voyage late last summer which has lead to some drastic changes in our lives -- all for the better I must say. I feel as though I am much healthier now and ready to set healthy boundaries again. But I must now tackle the opposite side of these questions and observe a much more difficult perspective -- one that looks at whose life am I changing? Who am I challenging and investing in? What am I doing to them? What do I have them saying and reading? Where do I have them going? What do I have them becoming? I need to find at least one because at the end of their days who can ask for more than to have changed the life of one other for the better?

As I type these words it has never been so clear to me. I have the most wonderful opportunity right at my feet (literally right now). Not only to invest and change the life of one other person, but of three others. My children are the ones I will help become. For their lives will not get better by chance, it will only get better by change.

“If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse; however if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Who are you helping this year become? Who are you investing in? Are there some unhealthy relationships you need to sever? You will not get better by chance, but only by change. Take one step closer today in becoming who you are meant to be .


Rachel said...

This was an excellent post. The type of people we hang out with really affect what we become. I've noticed this in my own life over the past year. Once I got away from cynical, depressed people it helped me change my outlook on life. I'm much happier now.

Looking forward to more posts on BECOMING.

Heidi said...

I got goosebumps reading this post! Excellent quotes. Excellent thoughts. YES!

Sometimes I feel as if I am not doing enough for other people. Enough volunteering at church or in the community. Enough for friends. But then I remember that my number one job is to be a good parent. And if I do that job well, my contribution to society will be greater than if I am constantly out and about trying to 'help.'

Thank you for posting today!!

Maria said...

I feel like standing up and applauding! I, too, decided to BECOME a different person by first changing those around me. Sadly, one of those people was my ex-husband, who I decided to leave. It's funny, with the exception of my family, I don't hang around or talk to ONE SINGLE PERSON that I did ten years ago. Or even five years ago. And you know what? I really like what I've become as a result of those drastic changes.

Can't wait to read more!


Bella Art Girl said...

good thoughts...great's another one I love and have a small version on a bracelet on my wrist... "This life, therefore, is not righteousness, but growth in righteousness; not health, but healing; not being, but becoming; not rest, but exercise. We are not yet what we shall be, but we are growing toward it. The process is not yet finished, but it is going on. This is not the end, but it is the road. All does not yet gleam in glory, but all is being purified."--- Martin Luther, *Defense of All the Articles*, Lazareth transl., as found in Grace Brame, *Receptive Prayer* (Chalice Press, 1985) p.119

justgottalaugh said...

You're right. Your kids are where your investments need to be made. Well said!