I like to start my posts to you as if we're already in the middle of a conversation. I pretend that we are the oldest and dearest friends as opposed to what we actually are. People who don't know each others names and met on a blog where we all claimed we've never been before. What will my followers say today I wonder.
I turn on my computer. I wait impatiently as it loads. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I see three little words: You've got comments.
I hear nothing. Not even a sound of my Twerps, just the beating of my own heart. I have comments... from you.
That is how special you all make me feel. And I truly read every single comment and take everyone of them to heart.
That is why I must address my sweet, precious, tender-hearted and brave ~ Amy.
Amy commented on yesterday's post and said....
boys will be boys is not a good adage to follow in life. boys are cruel and you just say "boys will be boys" so that makes it ok? Boys bully and pick on other children, or animals, and you excuse it with "boys will be boys"? wow, that's depressing.
Oh sweetie, your compassion of others and animals is touching. But I feel I must clarify a few potential misconceptions.
1. Middle Twerp DID NOT kill that bird. It was actually dead in our side yard. I do not know if one of the neighborhood cats got it or if it was sick. Either way -- it is not the ideal toy for my 5-year-old.
2. I know you do not know my Twerps well at all, but I can tell you this: Middle Twerp is the most compassionate and sensitive kid out there. He takes in every stray and "homeless" animal. He makes me walk around ant hills so I don't "murder" any of them with my shoes. He saves the crust off his sandwiches and takes them after dinner to the backyard for the "homeless" animals to eat. He cares. And he did not for a minute even realize that bird was dead. He just thought it was a little lethargic. Seriously.
3. Boys - Can boys be cruel? Yes. Is it unacceptable? ABSOLUTELY. But I will say from personal experience, in my life I have been the recipient (and sometimes the giver) of very cruel and mean acts. And I can say without a shadow of a doubt that while boys can be cruel and mean, it has been my overwhelming experience, that girls can also be the culprit of cruelness. We can be biddy and manipulative and CRUEL. I have experienced it from women (mainly just one that will go unmentioned states away), many more times than boys. I hear what you are saying, but it goes both ways.
4. I think there is not a soul alive that does not agree that cruelness and bullying (in any gender) is unacceptable and NOT tolerated. But, I must say...Middle Twerp was not being cruel to this bird in any way shape of form. He was being a BOY -- and what we mean by that is a girl would have crinkled her nose, squealed, and ran (on her tippie-toes) to tell her brother. Who would have picked it up and played football and tried to make it fly. It's not cruel -- it is just the difference in boys and girls.
Thanks for your compassion. We need more people like you who are brave enough to speak up when cruelty is occurring. I just wanted to clarify that this was not one of those instances.
I love you all.
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