Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Ask Me -- I'll Tell Ya Part 3: The Final Frontier

I received this email and wanted to share.
Dear CG,

What do you do when you're frustrated as a mommy? Just an "out of curiosity" question.

I like your laid back style as you present it on the blog and as a reader I completely adore the quirky sense of humor you weave into your writing. But I can never think of that kind of stuff in real life only when I sit down to write.

So instead of quirky, funny "directing" my fantastic kids to another "less annoying" activity, a lot of the time, I yell. Not too much, but enough for me not to want to and I'd love to know how other moms deal. Although I have the feeling, the problem is universal and the issue will go away with time, like when they move away to took me 10 minutes to come up with that...*patting myself on the back*

Oh sweetie -- the thing about the blog is I get to use the paintbrush that paints the picture of me. And maybe my picture has not been accurate.

I struggle with the same issues. I yell when I should hug. I snap when I should encourage. I hurry when I should relish.

I judge myself by my intentions and my kids by their actions.

But you know what I know? Tomorrow is a new day. And it is NEVER to late to say I am sorry.

I cannot tell you how many times I have apologized to my kids. Forty eleven. And every time I cry - cause I feel like a failure. But I know this, I make mistakes. And one thing I want my kids to know is that mistakes will happen. Mistakes are not the issue. How you deal with them and what you learn from them is the key to success.

Honey, you are gonna make mistakes. You are gonna yell and tear down when you should hug and encourage. But, I believe, the key is to BE REAL. Say you are sorry. Admit you were angry and handled it wrong. LOVE THEM through, not only all their faults, but through yours too. Cause at the end of the day -- you know what life is all about? OTHERS.

And there are no OTHERS better investing in than your precious little spawn.

Life is short. These days will fly by. You WILL make mistakes. But your heart is what they will remember.

I love you and believe you are a WONDERFUL mom.

I believe in you. Don't give up on yourself.

Big Pink Fuzzy Heart with Glitter,

PS Blogger Girls {and guys} - Feel free to leave a comment for this precious mom. We can all use advice.


cynthia said...

what she said...

i believe that every mom (who cares) is doing their absolute best! and that's all we can do!

learning from others mistakes is certainly part of "life's lessons"!

Loonstruck said...

What CG said. Forgive yourself and apologize and don't wait for Monday to start fresh. Do it now. (Even if "now" happens forty eleven times in a day.)

I believe in you too!

Scrappy Girl said...

I think every Mom loses it from time to time. I know my kids get a front row seat for me at my worst sometimes. Apologies are priceless.

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SondreLyn said...

I think love goes a long way.

My kids are grown (or close enough!)and when I look back on my parenting I can beat myself into a mental/emotional breakdown over all of my mistakes. Yet, my kids are wonderful. Sweet. Kind. Generous. Hard working. Scary smart. I could go on and on.

Love your kids like crazy. Forgive them their mistakes. Ask for forgiveness for your own mistakes. Pray. Pray. Pray.

Dana and Daisy said...

This goes for Step-mom's. Forgiveness is harder to give and receive in blended families. If I could go back a few years and try again, I would do a lot different.

I would laugh a lot more, even when it seemed not funny.